Yep. It’s true. I’m one of those people. The woman that would eventually become my wife was first known to me as Morrigan, the human priest. For a long time, both her and I were a bit guarded with that secret. We were kind of embarrassed, I suppose. It was 2009 when we met, but even a mere five years ago, it still felt a bit geeky to meet someone online at all, not to mention playing a video game. Saturday my lovely bride and I traded epic rings and began our group quest through life. During our journey I’ve learned several very important lessons about love, gaming, and life.
If you’re happy, everyone else can piss off.
My wife and I met in World of Warcraft, if anyone doesn’t like that I couldn’t possibly care less. I’m married. Regardless of what anyone might deem a “nerdy” lifestyle, I found someone that loves me enough choose to spend the rest of their life with me. So again, if we’re not cool enough because we met playing a video game, fuck you. I love her with all my heart, she loves me with all of hers, and that’s all that matters to us. We’re not interested in the approval of anyone else.
Do what you love and love will find you.
It’s completely, 100% cliché, but it also happens to be true (at least in my experience). For years I chased girls around, trying to get them to like some version of me that I thought would be attractive to them. In the end, the most attractive version of myself that I’ll ever be is the one that I am naturally. As a gamer, I’m most comfortable, most sociable, and most likable when I’m gaming. When I met my wife, she noticed that immediately. I was kind, witty, funny, open; all the things I wanted to be. The thing was, I didn’t have to try to be those things around her, because I was already where my heart wanted me to be. The same rules applied to her. The things I noticed in her were just as evident to me because she was where she wanted to be as well.
Gaming may very well be the BEST way to cultivate a long-distance relationship.
When we first met, my wife and I lived about seven hours away from one another. Before we ever even talked about meeting “in real life” we spent a lot of time together playing WoW online. Even after we started commuting to see each other once or twice a month, we still spent the vast majority of our time together playing WoW. The cool thing that we noticed about playing a game together was that we constantly had goals to work toward. Sure, sometimes we’d just sit on Skype and have those normal long-distance couple type of conversations, but we also had something to do together. In a way, playing together was like going on mini-dates each night. Instead of playing mini-golf (putt-putt for you savages), we’d play WoW. It allowed us to interact beyond just talking. We learned things about each other’s problem solving abilities, teamwork skills, etc… as we spent time beating up dragons. Gaming gave us a chance to go on free dates every night, and we both loved it.
Gaming may very well be the best way to cultivate ANY relationship.
Beyond what gaming can do for long distance relationships, gaming together (specifically in a cooperative manner) can be fantastic for any couple. My wife and I learned a ton about one another beyond what conversations can teach. We learned how to play well together, and in the process, how to live well together. It might seem dumb but we developed skills in WoW that very tangibly carried over to our real life. Co-op gaming helped us do that by constantly creating problems that required teamwork to fix. My wife and I lived together long before we were married, but we continued to game together on a regular basis. Games helped us continue to grow together and learn from each other.
Gaming is cheap!
Everyone has a hobby, and it can be rare to have you and your significant other have the same hobby. If you’re lucky enough to have that, welcome to the club. Beyond that though, if you’re lucky enough to have gaming be your hobby, you’ll probably find your pocketbook starting to fill up. That’s not to say that gaming is the cheapest thing you can ever do, but it’s a lot cheaper than the hobbies many of our peers engage in. Snowmobiles, boats, golf clubs, weekend pub crawls, all that stuff adds up. Comparatively, gaming is pretty cheap. The benefit of that is when you need money because your car broke down or you want to have that spontaneous romantic getaway, it’s there.
Gaming can be as intimate or as social as you want it to be.
Playing a game like WoW gives you the opportunities to not only socialize with your significant other, but also with tons of other players. Many a night has been spent playing WoW and drinking copious amounts of alcohol, like a typical party. On the other hand, if you and your significant other would like to spend some alone time killing baddies, there are lots of games that can be played privately, without the intrusion of friends or guild mates. There is always something to do, and the social scale of your chosen event is always up to you.
A few last words.
I love video games, and so does my wife. Gaming brought us together, and then solidified our love. She’s my best friend, the love of my life, and most importantly, she can pick off a crazed zombie from one hundred yards away without breaking a sweat, so when the zombie apocalypse comes I know she won’t be a liability. I’d encourage any couple to play games together, even if you don’t think you’d be into it. At the very least, you’ll laugh together.